Chinese culture and Intermarriage.

["Henrietta Akit" <henriettaakit@hotmail.com>]

Frank,
I dedicate this poem to the forum people and all people who pass thru and to 
all the Chinese in this world.
Henri


THE MEANING OF LOVE.
By Henrietta Akit.
How do you paint a picture of love,
With words, what would you say?
Love is an emotion that, is serious.
If I had to paint a pretty painting,
It would have bright beautiful colours,
Of the rainbow, that you would stand
In awe, admiring the softness, tenderness,
Worldly meaning of love, of a wide
Spectrum of connections, with things
Like, love of nature, love of people,
Love of peace, love of kindness,
Love of music, love of writing, love
Of life, love of children, love of family.
There’s so much to love, we can go on
Forever. But what’s the real meaning
Of this thing called love. Do you have
That feeling? Falling in love could be
The most painful thing ever. It must be
Something precious, like a glittering jewel.
Like coca-cola, it’s the real thing.
Or, is it like Mountain Dew, clear,
And sparkling,  in the early morning sun.
Is love like the sun, hot and constant,
Do you feel the warmth of the filtering sunlight,
On my soft supple skin, and under my feet.
Or, is love like the rain, coming down, so fast,
In torrential downpours, with lots of thunder,
And lightening, keeping me wide awake,
At night. Or is love like the lonely moon,
Always shining so bright. Is love a mystery
That keeps you wondering, are you
In love? How would you know if,
It’s the real thing? Is love a feeling
That you have to discover,  in your life.
Women can be mushy and write about love,
In romance novels, in movie scripts, in poems.
Love affairs proliferate. But it’s not authentic love.
Authenticity, is important. Love is electricity,
Egocentricity for some. In an obzockee way,
I can say,  je suis, je parle, je pense, j’arrive,
J’adore ma vie,  une vie avec des plaisirs,
Comme le plage, le ciel, le coeur de courage,
Avec spontaneite, vivacite, de l’amour vivante.
Yo soy, yo quiero mi amor, mi vida.
Ma vie avec des realites, une beaute.
De felicidad. Quand tu comprends le verite,
Tu le verras. Like the moonlight shimmering
On the surface of the ocean. Never fading away.

THE END.

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Dear Chinese brothers and sisters (Hakka or non-Hakka),

This is a question that we, as Chinese in America increasingly grapple with
in our daily existence as a community.  I want to ask: "If I were to marry a
non-Chinese and non-Asian woman, how would that affect the Chinese heritage
of my future children?"  If all the Chinese in America were to be mixed and
intermarried with non-Chinese, is it still possible for the children to
claim Chinese heritage?  Our dating and marriage pool is so small and
limited that we are sometimes forced to date and marry outside.  I heard 26%
of Asian men in US will remain bachelors if they only insist and limit their
choice to an Asian woman partner.  Two of my Chinese-American male friends
gave up looking for a Chinese or Asian women.  They took a path that I still
have problems with.  They married Russian mail order brides.  Yet, I can't
blame them.  They had no choice, or they would remain lonely all their
lives.  The only thing I fear is that their children will probably no longer
have that obligation to become Chinese.  How do Chinese from elsewhere view
this?

Chinese brother in the US,
Frank Wong

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