Fw: hakka: Hakka wedding custom

["S. L . Lee" <sllee@asiawind.com>]

----- Original Message -----
From: "Teoh, Jonathan" <eagle@eastman.com>
To: <henry1809@hotmail.com>
Cc: <hakka@brooklaw.edu>
Sent: Tuesday, May 16, 2000 8:50 AM
Subject: RE: hakka: Hakka wedding custom


> To be brief and to your point, the "gou ta li"(Giving of big gift to
girl's
> family) is to give  red packet money, in the amount of nine like $99 or
> $999, to symbolize longitivity.  Also, the man's family would give Hakka
> meat ball to girl's family to symbolize the union of 2 families or clan.
> Hakka beef balls(ngiu yuk yuan) is a popular dish in South East Asia. Just
> check out the local coffee shop house.
>
> Before the gou ta li(Give big gift), there is actually a guo se li(give
> small gift) It is the giving of wedding ring, with fruits and candy to the
> girl's family.  I guess you can combine the 2 together. As you combine the
> two,
>
> On the day of wedding, the number from man's family need to be even in
> number to stop by girl's family to fetch the bride.  There is the beating
of
> drums or lion dance or lighting off fire-crackers to welcome the couple as
> they walk into man's house.  You can simplify this step by having children
> and/or relative throwing rice (the uncooked one of course) at the couple
as
> they walk into the house.  There is a small fire pot in the middle of the
> door, so the couple need to "walk" over the pot. But it is difficult  if
the
> bride is dressed up in western style white gown.
>
> At night, there will be some small dishes on the table in the bedroom. The
> table is lighted with 2 red candles or 2 small kerosene lamp. There are
> chicken, noodle, and 2 eggs. The couple would dine together. There is no
> need to finish the meal but need to eat a little bit of each dish.
>
> The above is a framework for you to work. You could add, subtract or
modify
> it to suit your situation and needs. Hope this help!   You are welcome to
> visit my web site at http://go.to/hakkaworld  It is improving weekly,
please
> check often.
>
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> > From: "Henry C M Lee" <henry1809@hotmail.com>
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> > Subject: Hakka wedding custom
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> > Dear Mr Liu
> >
> > I got your email address while browsing through the internet on "Hakka".
> > I am a second generation English-educated Hakka in my 50s living in
> > Singapore.  My son is getting married in July to a girl whose family
(Amoy
> > -
> > Hokkien) is rather traditional.  In order to match the traditional
> > thinking,
> > I thought that it would be good for my side to follow some traditional
> > Hakka
> > wedding custom.
> >
> > My questions are:
> > 1. What are the things (e.g. roasted piglet, "dragon-pheonix double
> > happiness" red candles etc. etc.) to bring over to the girl's family a
> > week
> > or so before the wedding day?  (known as "guo ta li" in Singapore).
> > 2. and the things to bring to girl's family on the wedding day itself?
> >
> > Please favour an early reply and advise the web pages or other sources
> > where
> > I can read and obtain more information in English or Chinese.
> >
> > Best regards
> > ->وس*¶
> > Lee Chian Moon
> >
> >
> >
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