Author: Thomas Johansen
Date: 08-29-06 03:04
I am married to a Chinese woman. I married in China. We have are troubles, culture, language etc. Immigration takes a long time. A friend of mine kind of told me this...
International Marriage Scam
There are several variations. Usually the target, male or female is contacted through mutual desire to meet. Internet!!! Date/Mate sites, magazines, etc.
The target (mark) is then groomed into the con. Takes about 4-9 months. Remember your desires are the catalyst...keep you happy, they ask for items in increments, small additional living cost, accommodations etc then get a commitment to marry. That is what their ad states (looking for marriage), because you think it is a different culture you say they are just very direct, why beat around the bush, its more convenient and "that's what I was on the site for too" The reputation of foreign wives is good. You may have just been hooked, do some further checking, make a weekend trip or visit if possible...feel the situation.
Soft and wonderful emails of new love, soft to the ear, promises of a full and healthy relationship. The mark will be brought into the financial aspect of the con when they take the hook and bait.
It is a long con, could last several years, usually a minimum of 1 to 3 years.
Goals of the con:
1. Financial- to obtain a financial target or goal, increased lifestyle, new homes, condos, autos, bilk the mark for anywhere from 10,000.00 to 100's of thousands of dollars. For use in the home country.
2. Obtain false premised entry into a foreign country through marriage.
3. Ultimately when the top goal is satisfied, to end the relationship, return to the home country, to the original "unmarried" "true" spouse, marry this person, hopefully having not been caught of the fraud, and live the goal lifestyle obtained.
(note) A green card in the U.S. requires at least 3 years of marriage. If you have a kid here together...they can come and go.
If the wedding is fast, hold your wallet and get ready to lose everything. If they determine you are not the wealth mine they were looking for, be ready for a rough ride, they will claim they are unhappy, do almost anything for a divorce early. This ensures there will probably be no property to split. You tried your best but have probably already done good amount of damage to your life savings and or general income.
If love = money...think!
They say if something smells funny, its probably rotten. The fraud is simple, difficult to detect. If you do become suspicious and you ARE married, hire a private detective in the country or city where your spouse is, if your bold go home on a unannounced trip with gifts. If their arms are open of surprise and happiness your probably o.k.
If not, you will know and it could get dangerous, do not stay, fight or argue, have the next flight same day already booked and move on. Recommendation: always use PD agency when possible minimum of 2-3 surveillances over 1-2 months. Get your information. If you are wealthy this could protect prior family, children of previous marriage, your wealth and your sanity. As well as your life!
If you can try to find a way to live there, if they don't want you living there, your probably putting a dent into someone else's...the "true" spouses love/sex life. It significantly raises the possibility of the two of them being caught. In most of these countries, jails and prisons are not good places to be so do not do anything if you catch them, leave. You'll know if something's up. Emotional body and spoken language says volumes, so does your intimacy, pay attention. If you do not feel anything wrong, your probably o.k. have a great marriage and a good life.
If you suspect a scam/fraud, do not contact their local authority, contact your home country immigration authority and State Department after you have left the country.
These persons have played on your heart, hard earned money so it is best to catch the fraud as quickly as possible into the relationship so you can move on...lesson learned.
If any men or women of this forum who have had a similar experience, or suspect you are the mark, take some action before you are left in tears, broken "divorced", "used" goods.
I hope everyone gets a good and healthy relationship built on honesty, intimacy and life long love. I am very hopeful my new relationship, and I do not see any of the above being applicable to my relationship and I guess that advice is for multiple countries. My wife can be demanding and she does have high expectations, it does create drive for success.