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 Re: chinese internet dating scams
Author: denny 
Date:   08-22-06 20:11

Yes, Thank you Xinfreind for your response to a tortured soul who is trying to find answers to a complex issue! Some of the problems I'm having is that I don't want to Hurt someone whom I may just be mis-interpreting due to differences in culture etc. i.e. I've been told by others that traditional Asian women do not talk about their personal life and so if that is the case then naturally my questions regarding her son, family, work/job, freinds, roomate etc. would not be answered by her? Also I know the emigrations laws are complex and 10 different peoples would tell you ten different things regarding emmigration! I mean I've read them myself but their are enough ambiguities that it leaves the issue pretty much 'Open' for interpretation? I have also been told by others that divorced Asian women w/children are considered 'Second Class' citizens and so their chances of re-marriage in their country is next to 'nil'?

I mean their is a desperation in the letters I receive from this women who seems to be perfectly sincere but who does not waiver from her central theme of wanting to marry and trying to 'Force the Issue'? I mean another mystery here is that when I ask how her Ex would feel if she took the son to settle in a foreign country, her reply is that "my Ex hates me and my son and would like to kill us'? When I ask for further explaination regarding that subject, she will not respond to that issue? This is true of many of the questions I ask of her but just continues to fill half her letters with talk of Love, can't live without you, pry & miss you daily etc. & the other half of her letters are filled with poetic prose presumably taken from some book?

I have been told by one internet freind that it would cost approx. $30,000 US to marry someone from a foreign country (by the time you get the woman to this country and related expenses etc.)?

I do beleive be it 'right' or 'wrong' that Asian women Can Fall-Hard for someone and even though I may be far from a perfect 'Catch' so to speak, marrying me would 'Open' doors for future opportunities for this woman and her child and its difficult to cast Blame towards someone who is desperate to Improve her life for her & her child!! But that leaves me with not relly fitting into that plan cuz actually I am looking for just a traditional relationship/companion to spend time with, get to know better and Maybe after that it may lead to something more serious but LATER-ON!!

Oftentimes though in the past I have opted for hurting myself before hurting the other person and so have been wounded as a result of my setting myself-up for a 'Fall'!!

Any comments anyone out there might have regarding this issue would be extremely helpful and appreciated.


Thanks to All,
Denny
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