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 Re: Chinese Internet Dating Scams
Author: Andries Zijlstra 
Date:   09-04-04 06:41

My experience with Chinese people is that in general the writing is initially better than the speaking. There are several explanations: writing can be checked and even verified by software. What one should not forget is that the Chinese culture is such that especially young ladies will not reveal easily her personal views or feelings to "strangers". So building a relationship is first to show our own serious intentions and than moving on slowly. My best Chinese friend commands the English grammar perfectly and when we are on the phone we can talk for over an hour about anything and we feel very comfortable. Professionally when I was in China I noticed that a lot of Western people are not sufficiently patient and comprehensive to give the Chinese the time to reflect and start "correcting" too soon. A young lady in our office was considered to be unable to speak English and I was surprised because her reports in English where very correct. When I had lunch with her one day she started to talk to me and explained that this was the first time in her life that she was exposed to Western people and couldn't understand the American accent because this was not in the scope of her English lessons. Than we got a very nice conversation and since then we had lunch and a walk almost every day. Her English improved in no time and that was more based on trust than on know-how.

Andries
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