Date: 09-03-04 05:32
I live in China. I can't tell for sure if women in China usually cheat men (in or out of China) over internet out of money by romantic incentives or even fake marriage promises etc. But the world is so big and all people are so different in one way or another. So one won't be too surprised to see all things are happening.
My concern is that you have to treat the woman you are communicating with individually. What happens to others doesn't mean it happens to her, and what doesn't happen to others doesn't mean it doesn't happen to her. If you are really cautious as you sound, you just have to observe and come up with your own conclusion. One way I can suggest to use to find out whether she can be trusted in general is to ask her a question and see what she answers and remember it, then ask it again (maybe in a different way)after a period of time (when she probably has forgotten having been asked) and see whether this time her answer is identical with the previous one. Just by asking small things sometimes you can tell whether a person is genuinely honest or not. Of course, this is not totally reliable as we know people can forget things from time to time. Anyway, all that I am suggesting is that you have to take her individually and try to use your common sense to judge her words and behaviours then conclude.
Another thing I would say is if you are serious about building a relationship with her, perhaps you should take a longer time to find more about her and until you feel a bit more secured of what a woman you are going to meet. THree months sounds to me a relative short time in general. Given a bit longer period of time, if you consistently find her being honest, perhaps you can then be somewhat sure of her as well as the relationship. At this stage, when you feel so insecured of what the woman is in particular, taking all the trouble to go meet her just doesn't sound making too much sense. What do you think?
Anyway, just trying to give you my two cents worth since you posted it here. No expert I am. :-) Good luck!