Author: Paul Yih (---.mad.wi.charter.com)
Date: 11-28-04 09:23
Andries, I think she will have to give her boss one more chance - by telling him her feeling indignant and insulted -- even in written form - I have suggest such gesture is to prevent from future happening.
I have no qualm for foreign students and their host to have wild sex - again with consent --
let me tell you one of the situation which you may find it comical -- that is who much I love that spontaneity ofmy Brazilians :)
I have one female mentor /professor from Brazil came teacching here in the US --- We are very good friends -- and she had told me she had gone into Chicago on her own -- just for oneday, hanging around a Mexican neighbor for a whole day !!!!
And I asked her "why".
She grinned and said " Paul, geez, these Americans or gringos are so cold" they don't look at us women like our men in Brazil "
So, she went off to chicago for one whole day -- just so she can feel like a real Latin women ....
But does that make her a sexual "object" ? No.....But can those words be misinterepreted ? yes ....
We all have different outlook and sexual values --- But we have to be mindful in what we read of the others "sexual" signals -- Be mindufl that those sexual signals may not meant for you.
I am more ashamed of these so called school administrators -- they themselves probably had other female teachers who were more liberal -- but if they are the leaders and htey are in a control position -- are they not suggesting in the abuse of their power ? I am totally against that - It is notthe sex issue --It becomes a power issue ----. cindy has to make known to them or to future "teachers" into China -- for the goodness of Chinese and for the standard of being professional - No one has to exploit any incoming forein teachers ------ That is my take and I feel totally offended by the action of these "assholes"-- They are not PHDs -- but mreely a batch of "A Pile Higher and deeper" morons.