Author: CHUNG Yoon Ngan
Date: 12-23-05 06:02
The following article is from the book titled "馬來西亞客家鄉賢錄" on Hakka
customs.Published by the Federated Hakka Associations of Malaysia.
轉妹家 means: A married housewife visiting her parents' home
"轉妹家"是客家人說的土話, 也就是"回娘家" 的意思.
在家鄉婦女們要"轉妹家", 除了逢過年過節或娘家有婚,
喪, 喜事之外, 平時不是一件很容易辦到的事.
"轉妹家" 事先要經過丈夫的同意, 公公婆婆的許可.
假使自己當家主事, 臨行前對家庭事物亦要作一適當的安排,
否則, 會被視為不守 "婦道", 小人者受人批評, 大者弄致家庭失和.
教親, 尊長, 念舊, 都是客族固有倫理傳統和習俗,
農村婦女, 從出嫁到死亡, 不管環境怎樣變遷, 除非事實上不許可,
一直都與娘家保持往來.
"轉妹家" 是其中方法之一, 就鄉俗言, 娘家是婦女的保障,
舉凡一切家庭糾紛, 除了訴請婆家親夫排解外,
如有必要還可邀請娘家尊長出面干涉或調解,
而多數都能得到圓滿的收場, 用不著上街門驚動官府,
鄉中有句俗言, "天上雷公, 地上舅公", 這是最好不過的說明.
"年初二, 節初六". 意思是說:
新年要到了年初二, 端午節要到了五月初六才能 "轉妹家",
年年此日開始;不管年輕, 年老的婦女, 事前都經過一番張羅和打扮,
尤其是年輕的婦女,個個打扮得花枝招展, 帶著無限的喜悅心情,
手上挽著藍子, 有的還攜男帶女, 踏上回娘家的路途,
"藍子" 裏裝的是孝敬父母, 親長的禮物, 有吃的,有穿的, 有戴的;
或一些打發年幼弟妹, 子侄輩的糖果, 糕餅之類, 回到舊時的庭院,
重溫往日的美夢, 從一草一木中追尋美麗的回憶.
A rough English translation
A married housewife visiting her parents home, in Hakka is called "Zhuan
Mei Jia". Visiting her parents is not an easy matter because she has to
wait for the occasions of New Year and Festivals or some special occasions,
like a brother or a sister getting marry etc. Usually she must have the
consent from her husband and permission from her parents-in-law. If she
is the boss of the household she has to arrange for someone to look after
the family during her absence. She would bring presents for her parents,
brothers and sisters.
Once a woman is married she stays in her husband's family for her whole
life.In case of having troubles with her in-laws family her parents would
usually come to sought things out with her in-laws. Her parents home is
her protector.
CHUNG Yoon-Ngan (鄭永元)
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